Dear Future Husband (BEDM Day 18)

Dear Future Husband,

I may or may not know who you are yet. God might have already placed you into my life or he might be saving you for later. I have had some bad relationships and had to deal with abuse while in the relationships and after the break ups as well.  Please don't be like those guys. Please don't hit me,kick me,try to make me have sex with you, call me names and etc.  Please respect me and love me for me even with my flaws. If we get in a fight,disagreement, or an argument,lets please talk about it and figure out a solution together that works for the both of us. My parents are divorced and I don't want either one of us to bring up that word because we got married because we love one another and want to spend the rest of our lives together.  I want to grow old with you. I want to be a mother and I want you to be a father. I want our children to see that their parents are in love and that they will stay together until one of us passes away at an old age. I've been through hard things in my life so if I look upset or look like I'm going to cry,please hug me and tell me that everything is going to be okay. That support from you would be amazing.

Don't be surprised :

• if I wear your hoodies or shirts to bed- Male hoodies are more comfortable 
• if I eat all the chocolate candy we have in the house- I'm addicted to chocolate 
• if I steal the blankets while we sleep

Love Your Future Wife

<3 Amanda 

International Day Against Homophobia And Transphobia (IDAHOT)(BEDM Day17)

Before I write my post for today, I just want to say this is my own view and it's okay if you have a different view than me because this is America and everyone can have their own views on subjects. 

When it comes to marriages, I seen no differences when it's man and woman or male and male,or female and female. My view is if they are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together, then they should be able to.Why should we take peoples' happiness away? I do have a brother and a few friends who fit in this category but do I treat them or view them any differently from others? No.Why not you ask,because they are people just like us and finds happiness in another man or woman. 

When it comes to people discriminating against lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgender and intersex people, I would call that a sign of bullying because it's not right to make fun of people, to call them names or to be just plain mean to them. So what if people are different then you; how boring would it be if we were all the same?

<3 Amanda 

Advice Wanted?

One of my main purposes for making this blog was to help young teens/young adults. I know being a young teen/young adult, life can be hard at times and there are times when you feel like you have nobody to go to for advice or just someone to talk to. I have added a contact form on the side if anyone wants or need to contact me if they need/want advice of just need someone to talk to. I know how it feels when you think nobody is there for you but I just want you to know that you'll have one person,me. 

<3 Amanda 

What's In My Purse(BEDM Day 16)

I thought it would be fun to do today's post about what's in my purse. This also helped me clean out purse.

Brown purse with hand sanitizer attached to it because it's always good to have clean hands(and of course the holder is pink!)

Two pens and Extra Peppermint Gum and Ice Breaker Watermelon(Which I recommend).

Female products as I am a female. 

Wallet (Kenneth Cole Reaction)

3  pairs of mittens....why??? It's May although it did snow in other cities today

Tweezers set, band-aids,Kleenex, deodorant and 5 chap sticks. Guess I like to be prepared as I don't like my lips feeling chapped.

Headbands,clips and a whole pile of hair ties. Can't have too many,I suppose.

One of my favorite key chains and the meaning behind it. It's Pink,the letter of my name,my favorite shape and it to support breast cancer.

Random key chains and lanyards,and pink monkey!

Midol for those terrible cramps and Excedrin to get rid of headaches.

2 mirrors,one has a brush inside and a Pop Beauty Crayon in Rose Romance and a Star Looks lip pencil in Tickle Me Pink.

A key chain that my dad gave me one year for my birthday or for Christmas.

A random keychain I found one day and then a key chain that my brother got me when he was in Hawaii 

<3 Amanda 

The Meaning Of Family (BEDM Day 15)

I wanted to find a challenge or a group that has a topic everyday that I could write about. It's not that I don't have any ideas of mine own,which I have ideas written down in a notebook. I just thought it would be fun to be part of something like that. This morning, I googled "Blog everyday" and I found this site that has ideas for the everyday in May. The website is http://www.rosalilium.com/2016/04/blog-every-day-in-may-2016/ . You sign up and then you get the calendar of ideas for each day of the month of May. It's called "BEDM", which stands for Blog Everyday in May. I'm a little late to posting but it doesn't matter; it's all to have fun and to enjoy writing.

Day 16 is Family. My family consists of my parents,who are divorced,two older brothers and one younger brother. I always wanted a sister but I have three brothers who I know can be annoying at times but they always have my back when I need them. When I think of the word family, I think of an unit. Yes, there will always be arguments and disagreements but family is still family. If you're new to my blog, you might not know how much my next sentence means to me. Family should always be there for you and love you no matter what. When I have a family of my own when I get married and have children,I don' t want there to be any thinking of the word "divorce" because you get married to the man or women that you love with all of your heart and want to spend the rest of your life with that person. If (and I know there will be like in every family) there are any disagreements and arguments , lets take the time to sit down and talk about the issue and figure out a solution that works for everyone involved.

What is your meaning of family?

<3 Amanda

News Story on "Baby in hot car death identified"

I seen this news story on Facebook a few days ago and I have been thinking about it. I wanted to give my opinion of what happened.  This news story is such a sad tragedy that occurred in Mississippi. A mom went to pick up her daughter from daycare after work but the workers at the daycare told her that she never dropped her daughter off at daycare that morning.  She then went back to her car and found her daughter in her car seat in the back seat. A sheriff called what happened a "tragic accident". In the article it read "Investigators believe that the toddler remained in the mother's vehicle throughout the day as temperatures reached the mid 80's.".

My opinion is how can you not know your child was still in the car? She needed to look in her rear view mirror to drive which means that she would have seen her daughter in her car seat.  I'm not yet a parent but I just don't see how a parent could leave their child in the car for almost the whole day and not realizing it. I'm not saying that she left her daughter in the car on purpose because it could have been a "tragic accident" but if it they find out that it was just an accident, she should have jail and possibly a fine. What are your thoughts about this news story?

http://www.msnewsnow.com/story/31950775/sheriff-2-year-old-found-dead-after-accidentally-being-left-in-mothers-car?clienttype=generic&utm_content=bufferf64a0&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer


<3 Amanda 

The Overcoming Of Selective Mutism

When I was younger;early elementary school years;I was diagnosed with Selective Mutism,which is a complex childhood anxiety disorder characterized by a child's inability to speak and communicate effectively in select social settings, such as school. These children are able to speak and communicate in settings where they are comfortable, secure, and relaxed (Shipon-Blum, E., n.d.). I remember in elementary school when I would only talk to my teacher and a few classmates because I was comfortable talking to them. I was less shy in middle school and high school. Now days, some people say that I do still have selective mutism a hundred percent but I think I have gotten way better.  I have had some amazing teachers who has been supporting, encouraging,patient and understanding. I still get times when I meet new people and I'm not that talkative but I also know more people who are like that as well.

Being shy has always been a struggle of mine and something that I have had to overcome but with great teachers,friends and family members, I have gotten way better at not being so shy since I was younger. What is one thing you overcame?








Reference:

Shipon-Blum, E. (n.d.). What is Selective Mutism. Retrieved May 13, 2016, from http://www.selectivemutismcenter.org/aboutus/whatisselectivemutism