Plenty Of Fish Vs. OkCupid

Hey guys,

These days, dating sites has become a big thing because it's convenient. For me, I'm on Plenty of Fish and Okcupid. When I get into a relationship, I used to just delete my profiles but then when I got broken up with, I would have to go back and type everything up again. I've decided that when I get into new relationships I just put "Looking for Friends/Not Looking" depending on the option for that particular site. Since I'm a member of each site, I thought I would compare and contract the two and give my opinion on them. I am only a FREE member so I can't go into all of the things you are able to access if you pay for a membership. DISCLAIMER- These are my OWN opinions (also, this review is based off of the apps not the websites but they are pretty much the same).

Plenty of Fish:

1.  Messages are of course your messages with other people. If you want to know if they read your message before they respond, then you have to upgrade.
2. There's an option called "Will Respond" and those are the members that will most likely to respond to you. When you click on that, you will also see "Top Prospects" and those are the members who POF think you will like I suppose.
3. You can also search (you can have POF access to your device location, which I don't just because) and you can add anything you want to look for in another person like: their age range, education, if they have children or not, if they are a smoker or a drinks, and so on.
4. Again, if you give POF access to your device location, they can show you who is nearby to you
5. My Matches- This shows who POF thinks you match up well together. There are other options like your "Ultra Match" that also shows a lost of people and the same for "Chemistry Matches".
6. You are able to see the people who looked at your profile and you can also look at the list of the people whose profiles you looked at. 
7. The "Meet Me" part of the site reminds me of Tinder (I'm not on there but I have heard of the left and right object of it). If you're not interested in someone, you swipe left and then if you like someone you swipe right. If there's  a mutual match, then you'll get a notification and it will also be listed under "It's Mutual". 
8. Favorites- You can put people as your favorites and you also can see who listed you as on of  their favorites.

OkCupid:

1. Just like POF's feature "Meet Me", OkCupid has something called "Double Take" which is the same exact thing.You swipe left if you're not interested and right if you are. 
2. "Discovery" is the search part where you can obviously search but there are some options you can't look for unless you're a paid member. You can also see people who you have shared interests with and your top matches. There are additional things on "Discovery" as well that you can check out.
3. Under "Likes" you can see who you liked and if they liked you back. If you're not on the A-List, you unfortunately can't see who liked you.
4. Conversations is your messages

The first one I was on a few years ago was OkCupid with the recommendation of one of my brothers.Then a friend of mine told me to try Plenty of Fish. I've found a few relationships through both of the sites. I personally like Plenty of Fish better because there are more things to do. But if you like another dating site better, that's totally fine because we can't always have the same favorites of this world would be boring.

Do you have a favorite online dating website or app?

<3 Amanda

Amazing Blind Date

Hey guys,

The weekend of November 3rd was a weekend that has been stuck in my head with good memories of course, and that weekend is when I met the guy who I have been chatting and texting with from POF. 

Thursday, November 2nd I was really really nervous because I was thinking what if he doesn't like me and things are going to be awkward between us and I have to spend Friday evening to Sunday with him. I was rushing around trying to get myself prepared and packed so I wouldn't forget anything. That took me awhile because I kept getting distracted by playing Bingo on Facebook Messenger. Thank you to the person that got me addicted to that (they know who they are). 

Friday came and I could not fall asleep the night before due to nerves so I don't think I fell asleep until around 3:30ish in the morning. I had my alarm set for 9am but didn't get up until 9:30am because obviously I was tired since I had trouble falling asleep. Later in the afternoon, his sister came and picked me up. The week leading up to it, I was nervous that it would be a quiet car ride because of how quiet I can get when meeting new people but we chatted pretty much the whole car ride (1 hour). As we got closer to their house, I started to become really nervous because every girl wants their crush to like them back. We went in the house and we pretty much just looked at one another as we both could tell that the other one was nervous as well. He handed me a vase of pink roses, which are my favorite color and flower. We hugged and I met their adorable dog who loved getting petted by me (he loved me).

We (him, his sister and I) then just walked around Downtown Benton Harbor while we waited for their aunt to get home from work. They played Pokemon Go so I tagged along when they tried to catch one. Then they took me to a casino out there and that was the first time I have ever stepped in a casino. They played a few games and then we grabbed some pizzas and headed over to their grandma and aunt's house.

I again became really nervous to meet their grandma and aunt because I wanted them to like me because I liked their grandson and nephew and I also wanted to make a good first impression.  We walked in and I met them and I could tell that they liked me. We ate pizza and just chatted. Then his aunt asked me if I was ready to meet the dogs, all 6 of them. She let them in and they all pretty much ran to him and his sister and then they realized that there was a new person. They all loved me. They are all so adorable and cuddly (if you can't tell I am a dog person). Besides dogs, they also have 5 cats which pretty much all loved me as well. What can I say I'm a lovable person.  Later on, we were hanging and chatting with his grandma and aunt, and then we went upstairs where we chatted and watched TV, and then we went to bed. 

Saturday, we both slept in because I don't think we slept the greatest the night before and then we had a long day the day before. We hung out until his sister came and we all (his grandma, his aunt, his sister, him and myself) went to another casino near them. That was a fun car ride. We got there, went to the buffet for dinner and then the casino. I had money from my mom to play for her and his aunt was nice enough to give us each money. We all spread out but me and him were together because that casino was huge and I wasn't about to get lost. I ended up with $15 and my mom ended up with $2, so I didn't lose but then I didn't do that awesome either. I walked past someone at a machine and they won $600, and was like why couldn't that be me.  His sister asked if we were done and we said yes, and we headed for the arcade where we played a few games and then their grandma came in because she was done at the casino. I went up to them because they were at the prize counter where they were getting sloths, and the guy behind the counter asked if that was for me when I was walking up. Not sure how he knew I was with them, maybe he saw us walking in together. His sister was nice enough to give me that sloth and got another one. At the end of the night we ended up with like 6 or 7 sloths. Here's mine:

We then left and they went to take pictures with all of the sloths while I sat in the warm car with their grandma. We drove back to the house and his sister went home, and we stayed up a little bit talking to his grandma and aunt again before heading off to bed. 

Sunday morning we woke up and I got all packed because I was going home that day. As we were waiting to leave, his stepdad stopped by and I met him. He's really nice.  On the drive back to my place, we stopped at McDonald's for lunch. The GPS kept making us make U-turns and making us go in circles but we finally made it to my house. He walked me in and gave me a hug and a kiss. 

We continued texting and on Monday , November 6th, I asked him to be my boyfriend and he said yes. Fun fact: We started texting on October 19th and to this specific time we have a total of 7,137 text messages between us. We are planning on seeing each other the end of December to exchange Christmas gifts and also spend my birthday weekend together. Only 43 days if everything goes as planned. I was really nervous when we were planning to meet for the first time and I can't wait to see him and his family again. They are all so nice.

<3 Amanda 

Valentine's Day 2017 Recap (Back story)

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Hey guys,

Something that I haven't mentioned on here yet is that I'm in a new relationship. I haven't been on here much as my dad recently just moved out of state and I wanted to spend time with him before he moved as he moved across the country.  Want to hear the back story of my new relationship? If you do, keep on reading. 

We met online and I know that people have their own opinions about online dating, but I would have never have met him if I wasn't on the website. We talked on the site for a day and then started texting. Since that night, we have texted every single day. The unfortunate thing is that he does live about 2 hours away. We then decided to meet the afternoon of my dad's surprise birthday party (guess it was a surprise day for me as well meeting a guy that I have never seen before in person). My dad and him got along very well. After my dad's party, we went on a movie/dinner date. We saw  Resident Evil: The Final Chapter and ate at Logan's. He had the Fried Cheese and Bacon Burger and I had the normal, Chicken Tender; we both had fries of course. After dinner, he brought me home but not without giving me a kiss.

That next weekend was actually my dad's going away party, and my dad invited him to it before Could even tell him about it. The party was on Saturday, but he came in that Friday and we had Burger King (my choice and my favorite fast food place). He had a burger (I forgot the name), and wanna guess what I had? Chicken Fries and French Fries, with ketchup of course. Then the next day was my dad's party.  We hung out there as I was the one with the camera. We hung out after that at my place,playing rummy with my dad and younger brother. That night I also asked him to be my Valentine's, and then only a few hours later on February 4th, 2017, we became boyfriend and girlfriend.  

We decided to exchange gifts the Saturday before Valentine's Day as he does live about 2 hours away. He gave me my gifts which was a pink stuffed hippo and some chocolate covered Oreo's (pictured below). I made him a jar with Hershey kisses that read "Kisses when I'm not around", and I also wrote him some "Open When..." envelopes. I also had a small dinner for later that night, which wasn't huge at all. All there was were those little grillers (hot dogs) with cheese in the middle, Macaroni  and cheese, and deviled eggs. That night we made popcorn and watched "The Switch", and then a few episodes of "The New Girl". 

Just like every other psst weekend, we are hanging this weekend and I can't wait to see him again. Like I said above, we have texted every day since the day we started texting aka first day we met online.  Shortly after that, we have talked every day sometimes more than once. He makes me extremely happy!!  :)

Hope you all had a good Valentine's Day. Hope you all had a chance to eat some chocolate. 

Update- I'm no longer with this boyfriend 

<3 Amanda 

When You Least Expects Love

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Until recently, throughout my life I have had 5 relationships and they all ended with me hurt. I have been broken up by a text, on Facebook chat, been abused,been cheated on and had a ex call off an engagement the year of the wedding. I have been told by family members and friends that my guy would show his face when I least expects it. I was starting to lose hope that he would show his face and thought maybe I was just meant to be single for the rest of my life.

Well, that changed very shortly after I started thinking that. I was on a dating website and there were other guys that I was messaging back but then I went on a profile and I thought he was really cute and was everything that I was looking for in a guy. I messaged him right then and he responded and we sent many messages back and fourth. We then started texting (and talking on the phone) and we have been non-stop texting one another. We decided to become a couple because we both have this feeling that we are meant to be.

I have never been this happy and smiled this much before.  He gives me so many compliments and I know he will always be there for me. Now, thinking about what my family members and friends has told me, I do believe that he came when I least expected him to come. I can't wait to see what the future holds for us!


<3 Amanda

What Is Love?

Growing up, children see their parents and other adults show affection to one another and base their view of love on what they see around them. When I was growing up, I could see that my parents were in love but then it was like there was a switch that went off and then they weren't in love anymore.I feel like I know the reason of them falling out of love but not going to say anything in case I'm wrong. I feel like they held on as long as they could for my brothers and I until they(one person) decided on divorce to be the answer. When I was younger, I knew that some of my friends' and cousins' parents were divorced and I thought my family was different,in a good way, because my parents were still together.

When I think about being with my future significant other, I have a list of what I want in a significant other and in a marriage. I'm currently 25 and I have only had 3 relationships,which I'm perfectly fine with. The first one ended between a month and a half and two months because he wanted to do something I wasn't ready for, the second one ended after three years when we were getting ready to get married but he called the engagement off and my last relationship ended four days shy of two months because I felt like he just wanted sex and being in a relationship is more than just sex. There's more information that goes with each relationship but that's just the general of what occurred I'll be honest, I'm happy that my ex-fiance decided to call off the wedding because I would definitely be more of a wreak then I was if we went through with the wedding and then he decided to divorce me.

I know my guy is out there and maybe I already know the guy or maybe I don't but I know that God will show us that we are meant to be when He feels like it's the correct time. I feel like I'll know what love is supposed to feel like when I meet the right guy. He'll be respectful,caring, kind and not abusive at all. Those are just a few things I'm looking in my future significant other.


<3 Amanda